JACOB AND ESAU: FAMILY RIVALRY
Genesis 27:35–37, 41; 33:1–4, 8–11
It’s universally acknowledged that some of the most challenging aspects of ministry are the family-related issues. I’ve heard stories from law enforcement officers about their difficulties in responding to domestic calls. The most enduring and intense conflicts often occur within our own homes. It’s as if those we are closest to biologically are the ones we know how to hurt the deepest. These issues are not unique to our generation; they have plagued humanity since the beginning of time.
Rivalry and self-centeredness can destroy relationships. (27:35–37, 41)
Esau was furious with Jacob. We could argue that he had a right to be. Jacob was a dishonest trickster, costing Esau the birthright and the blessing from their father, Isaac. Through deceit that took advantage of their father’s poor eyesight and the selling of a birthright over some stew, you have two brothers who are opposite in character and motives. To make matters worse, the parents of the young men were also involved in the drama and played favorites. Grudges were formed and anger festered in hearts. Esau’s wrath was to the point that he “determined in his heart” that he would kill his brother.
The vast majority of people never commit the physical act of murder. However, we have all faced the temptation to hate and hold bitterness in our hearts. Christ reveals to us that harboring hate is an offense in the same arena as murder itself.
Displaying humility is necessary for rebuilding relationships. (33:1–4)
Years passed between the two brothers, and the gap in time could make anyone better or more bitter. Esau had a choice to make the next time he crossed paths with his brother. He could seek his revenge, ignore Jacob or forgive him.
These are the three options you and I have today. People will hurt us, sometimes deliberately and sometimes by mistake. No one is immune to being taken advantage of in this world.
In a display of humility, Jacob humbled himself before Esau and a tearful reunion ensued. Jacob had suffered many things that allowed for an attitude adjustment. He was not entirely the same man he was in his youth. He recognized his need for mercy, and genuine brokenness can be the key to restoring a fractured relationship.
Humbly accept efforts by others to restore a relationship. (8–11)
The ball was in Esau’s court. There may be a time when someone comes to you and seeks your forgiveness. When that opportunity comes, you have a choice. If you need help knowing which way to go, remember Christ’s great love and grace to us all.
He has forgiven us more times than we could count. While Esau noted Jacob’s many offerings and gestures, he assured him it was not necessary to make things right. We may think we need to come to Christ with bells and whistles when in reality, all He wants is our genuine humility and desire for reconciliation.
Jacob is called “brother” in verse 9, and the relationship is fully restored. What relationships in your home, business, neighborhood or church are fractured that could be repaired by simply extending humility and forgiveness? As a Christian, you have a critical choice to make.
EDITOR’S NOTE — The Sunday School lesson outlines are provided by Lifeway.
By Bobby McKay
Pastor of New Liberty Baptist Church in Morton, Mississippi
